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Hold Hands, Laugh, and Learn to Live in the Now

April 13, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 128

Live in the now...

Real generosity toward the future lies in giving all to the present. Albert Camus

  • How often have you eaten a meal and not really tasted it- experienced it - savoured it?
  • How many times have you kissed a loved one good bye without looking deeply into their eyes and feeling grateful for that person's presence in your life?
  • How many times have you walked through a garden without noticing the new growth- the budding flowers- the abundant bird life?

As John Lennon says 'life is what happens to us as we are busy making other plans'

I am a 47 year old single mother of four- Following a challenging period in my life I now endeavour to live in the moment and enjoy each breathe. This is also referred to as 'mindfulness' the ability to experience the moment at that moment -rather than live in the hope of the future or retrospectively into the past.

I am not saying that I do not plan towards the future nor am I saying that I forget about the past but I now work towards appreciating what this moment brings right now.

  • When I eat I like to sit down and taste my food in reverent silence
  • When I say goodbye I like to look into that person's eyes, really hug them, and feel grateful for their existence in my life.
  • When I walk along a beach I like to feel the sand between my toes and inhale the salty air.

When analysing life - with our metaphorical gavel held high- we need to stop demanding

  • does it have a future?
  • where is this relationship going?
  • what next?
  • is the grass greener in the next paddock?
  • what more is there?

And instead gently pose the questions

  • does it have a present?
  • what do I have right now?
  • what can I give right now?
  • what does this relationship have right now- today?

We focus too much on 'where life is leading us' rather than 'where are we right now'.

How to appreciate the now:

  1. Identify - where are you now? Take in your surroundings and walk in each step rather than getting ahead of yourself
  2. What can you taste, smell, hear, see and feel now?
  3. Meditate, find time to be still, and listen.
  4. Keep a gratitude ritual
  5. Practice feeling compassion - commit to 3 compassionate acts per day
  6. Get in touch with nature, Feel the air being inhaled into your lungs, and the sun on your face, walk bare foot, and feel grateful.
  7. De clutter your bedroom and declutter your life.
  8. Hold hands, have eye contact, and hug with real feeling
  9. Laugh each day
  10. Say 'I love you', 'I am sorry' and "I am listening to you' with feeling
  11. Take responsibility for your behaviour- own your mistakes, and celebrate your strengths
  12. Foster relationships and good will

Life is lived moment by moment.

'Living' is the ability to experience the moment and feel grateful for its existence- NOW.

Lauren Ostrowski Fenton speaker, writer, personal trainer and 47 year old mother of four. Listen to Lauren on

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