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Forgiveness at Work

April 03, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 164

We are so often tougher on ourselves than on anyone else. This truth became part of a conversation I recently had with my friends Marilyn Suttle and Shawne Duperon. They both asked the question "how long before you forgive yourself?"

What a great question. In workplaces as a consultant and trainer I see it all the time. Someone hasn't forgiven themselves for a mistake they made, it affects relationships and stops the person from moving forward. Lack of forgiveness of self and others can also stop the team from fast tracking to success. Another common example, someone made a mistake ten years ago....yet it still comes up frequently at staff meetings, when new ideas are posed or when something goes wrong. The struggle to Let It Go can impact the ability to forgive, self and others.

Recently, there has been a virtual campaign that went viral on social media called Project Forgive.I find this statement by the campaign's founder, and the question it raises, very intriguing, "Life happens. We lose our jobs, we face bankruptcy and foreclosure. Some of us are dealing with a divorce, others of us are facing life threatening illnesses such as cancer. Culturally, we see deep political fighting, immigration issues, war, despair and violence. In the face of all this, how can we find the courage to forgive and cause a new realm of possibility, a new conversation?"

What an excellent reflective question. How can employees in teams find the courage to forgive their colleagues so the team can move towards their goals, better relationships, and success? What do you need to forgive yourself for to move forward?

Here are three tips to forgiveness that I learned a long time ago when I worked as a Correctional Officer (seems like half a life time ago but, these tips still help).

1. Accept that we all make mistakes. Treat mistakes like a learning opportunity.

2. Review and Learn. Ask yourself: What went well? What was a challenge? What did I learn? And, what will I do differently? This will help you move from blame to change.

3. Start the conversation. If you make a mistake, own it, accept it with grace and dignity, and move forward. As you move forward, so can others.

4. And remember....Forgiveness is For Giving!

There is no better way to keep Bouncing Forward than to first forgive yourself and then forgive others!

Do you often find yourself in situations where you would love to move forward but just can't for some reason? Maybe it is because there is a part of your past that you need to forgive. Be sure to set aside some time each day to reflect on your past, even the things that happened that day. If it has already happened, it is in the past. You can't change it but, you can forgive it. Forgiveness is a choice. Ask yourself who it hurts more, hinders more, or presents obstacles for. You or the person or situation you haven't forgiven. Sometimes the person we need to forgive is ourselves. This is so important. Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes. Forgive yourself, don't let your past rob you of your future. Forgive and Bounce Forward!

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