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Rejection - 7 Simple Ways That Help You Deal With Rejection

April 13, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 166

In a perfect world rejection never happens, but in reality it's a common event. Sadly, many of us men seem to be emotionally affected by rejection, so much so that some of us stop approaching women just because of this fear towards rejection. This article is here to help you understand rejection and the best ways to deal with it.

1. Accepting it

The first thing to do is to accept it. Rejection is common and it will always happen. The more you try, the less it will occur but your first step is to accept it. Think about it this way, you are a player and you play the game... if you get rejected it means you've done something wrong. It could be a bad pick-up line, asking for a dance out of the blue, offering to buy her a drink, trying to close when all her sings were screaming I'm not interested etc. Regardless of what happened you can only improve your game by trying again. Do you stop playing football or tennis because you lost a couple of times? No, then why should you stop approaching women?

Rejection happens to the best of us and in most cases it's because we just didn't care enough to see the signs she was giving us. We didn't care that she looked uninterested yet we pushed in hopes that maybe it will work. I blame this on being lazy, but you may call it differently. The point to remember here is that rejection is so common and until you accept it, you will always feel struck down by it.

2. Lose the fear of rejection

After you have accepted it, losing the fear of rejection should be a natural occurrence. The more you try to approach and close the more you will get rejected but, the more this happens, the less you care. Fear of it will only be present at the beginning. If you're sitting there thinking, I'm afraid she will say no, it's probably because you haven't approached many women in your life. The more you will do it, the less you will care about rejection. Once this happens you will focus your attention to the mistakes you are making and working towards improving these mistakes.

You will start to see that she rejected you and ask yourself "What did I do wrong?", instead of crying for hours like a baby. You will think to yourself "that particular approach must have been inappropriate, next time I will try this other one". After a month or so you'll forget about rejection altogether and start to focus your mind on what really matters (your game).

3. Act cool when it happens

Even though you're probably getting less and less rejected, it will never stop completely. A good way of dealing with it and also making a one last ditch attempt to show her what she's losing, is to say "It's been a pleasure meeting you (and smile)". Say it like you really really mean it -in a friendly, respectful yet empathic manner. This way:

  • You'll make her see that her behavior didn't get to you one bit, you don't NEED her company, you just offered her a chance to be in your company.
  • You'll set yourself apart from all the losers who leave mumbling "bitches, they're all the same..." after having stroked out.
  • You'll remain cool, confident, a gentleman in good humor and she'll feel bad after realizing SHE just lost YOU!

This will be beneficial for you in the long run, especially if you go to the same place on a different night and end up seeing her again.

4. Never take it personally

Think of it this way, you're playing a game, and all you're doing is feeding some girl material. This material, which you've learned from websites, books, experience or anything else, so when she rejects you, she doesn't really reject you but more she is rejecting the material that you've been feeding her. How is that personal? Why would you take it personal? It's just a woman that didn't go for what you were saying to her at that particular moment. You can then use the same material on the next one and maybe it will work like a charm but, don't forget - never ever take it personally.

The game is no different from any other game and you should never take games personally. As the saying goes, "It's just a game".

5. Rejection is a good thing - She's the one losing you

Rejection is a good thing because the more you get rejected the more you will get laid. I learn something new every time I get rejected but mostly I just realize what a big mistake that woman is making. She had the opportunity of her life, to meet me (and I know how great I am) but yet, she passed on it without having the slightest idea of what she is losing. I was just about to give her this fantastic gift (the time of her life, incredible orgasm) but now she lost her chance. If this happens, dust off and go to the next one, she will be more than happy to see what you have to offer.

Remember, the difference between losers and winners is that losers don't fail enough. You need to fail and hit your head on the rocks in order to really appreciate winning.

6. Stand by these 3 reasons

Another great way to deal with rejection is to stand by these 3 reasons. Your state of mind is determined by the information you feed it with. If you turn to these 3 reasons rejection will be easy to accept:

  1. She has a boyfriend
  2. She already wants a friend of yours.
  3. She doesn't have the confidence to say yes. You need to work out whether you want to chase this woman or not. Many women really do not feel they are good enough to be asked on a date and therefore automatically say no. She may also have been burnt by some guy recently or in the past and this attributes to her lack of confidence. The problem the woman faces is that the longer she goes on with this and doesn't face her fears then the more like vinegar she becomes. Also many women for various reasons have this idea that by not going out with anyone it makes them more desirable. I personally believe it just grows cobwebs!

You will never know what's going on in her mind but these 3 rules will help you keep your confidence levels up.

7. Stop getting rejected

The more you try the more you will succeed resulting in less and less rejections. There is no way to actually stop rejection and whoever tells you otherwise is a liar but only by not giving up and constantly trying you will reduce the number of times you get rejected.

One last note to remember:

You can never get rejected, you only discover if a woman has good taste.

Alex Matlock is an expert in dating and woman psychology. He owns a website dedicated to helping men succeed with women. If you want to increase your success with women visit - a place where the "dating" mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct (and fruitful) methods of meeting and seducing women.

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