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Get Over Rejection: Really, Get Over It

March 27, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 130

Most of us have been rejected a time or five in our lives. Whether you are dumped in the midst of a committed relationship, or just never get the call back after a first date, rejection stings. Like many emotional obstacles in life however, a positive attitude is the best remedy. Self-pity will only perpetuate the situation and prolong your journey to bigger and better things. Wallowing in your sorrows may seem a standard post rejection reaction, but why? Brush it off; it's not the end of the world. The sooner you realize this, the better.

-Be Appreciative: Look on the bright side, at least they were honest. Many people, (including a few personal friends of mine) have a phobia of rejecting people and will stay with someone just to avoid the awkwardness. They wait it out until the relationship is basically run into the ground beyond repair. You found things out sooner than later and you are no longer wasting your time. Get excited that you are free to meet someone who is worth your while.

-Be Rational: Stop obsessing over what went wrong or what you could have done different; fact of the matter is, it's time to move on. If it was meant to work out, it would have. Even if you did analyze it to some reasonable conclusion, what then? The result is still the same. Cut to the chase and skip the analysis, you'll be doing yourself a favor. People always stew about their need for closure. What you need to do is get over it. In many cases the person who was rejected wasn't that enamored with the person they were with anyway, the rejection just triggers a "want what you can't have" mentality. Ask yourself what hurts more: The fact you are not together, or the bruise your ego took. Taking on a "screw it, I'm moving on" attitude is a far more affective approach than wasting your time licking your wounds wondering where you went wrong.

-No Drunk Texting: This one ties into staying rational. You were rejected, right? Take him or her out of your phone. Drunk dialing or texting your recent ex-flame can result in different possible outcomes, however all of them will most likely be regrettable. Say he or she tells you to stop talking to them, or straight up ignores you? You'll feel all the more embarrassed and your feelings of rejection will only be perpetuated. Or what if they do answer? You think having a blurry meaningless hook-up won't leave you feeling all the more confused and used? I'm sure being rejected has already left you feeling bruised, if you are guilty of being a drunk texter, save yourself some dignity and delete that number.

-Learn to value yourself: You have certain opinions of yourself, most of which are good ones hopefully; so why should you let others opinions overshadow your own? You have positive characteristics. Just because you were not right for a person does not mean you are not right for someone else. Remember that not everyone will fall for you, just like you don't fall for everyone you meet in your life. This is just a learning process that helps build character and keeps you more in tune to what kind of relationship you ultimately want to obtain. Think positively and you will be fine. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones who know your worth. Don't dwell, and keep a positive, rational attitude. It's as simple as that.

Diane Warlin is an Online Community Manager in Downtown Los Angeles. Throughout her career as a writer for various blogs and dating websites, she developed a passion for sharing her experiences and advice with others. She is currently working on a project that helps connect potential matches by putting the woman in control. Using a modern method of gender role reversal Diane hopes to bring online dating to a whole new level. The site is the only website in the US who gives women full control.

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