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February 25, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 158

"Had we not loved ourselves at all, we could never have been obliged to love anything. So that self-love is the basis of all love." ~ Thomas Traherne

Self-love... the basis and foundation of all love. Loving yourself is a gift not only to ourselves, but a gift that is reflected onto others. A gift that comes from within. What better time than right now, to start developing a relationship with yourself?! Especially starting this month- while love is in the air! Sound crazy or selfish? I don't think so. The better we are to ourselves, the better we are to others.

We spend an enormous amount of time searching for love outside of ourselves, rather than inward. And, we tend to place high expectations upon others to make us happy (as though it is their responsibility)! That's a lot of pressure to put on one person- and expecting another person to solely make us happy is when love gets selfish. We have to be able to pull our own weight and allow the other person to have their space, as well. We are the only ones who know what are own needs are- and it is our responsibility to meet them. We have to find the balance that's not only about loving the other person, but about loving ourselves, as well.

So, aren't you just a little bit curious about getting to know yourself a little better? Have you ever heard someone say, "I just want to get to know him/her better." Or perhaps you say the opposite, "I just need a little time for myself." We put so much effort into our partner's needs or finding a partner, rather than getting to know ourselves. It seems our focus is more about finding love from someone else or trying to please them or get them to please us. Then years later, you find yourself saying, "I don't even know who I am anymore." So why not make a pact with yourself to finally say, "Enough is enough. I'm going to get to know myself better. I'm going to start giving myself all the love I need!" Give yourself what you've been searching for all along- love and respect. Reward yourself!

Self-love starts with building a relationship with yourself- a groundbreaking. One way to begin self-love is with positive affirmations not verbal self-abuse. If you think about it, verbally abusing yourself is nothing more than having a bully follow you around all day- every day! Bullies choose to pick on people they "think" are weaker than themselves. Are you a weak person? Quit beating yourself up and tell the bully to get lost and start enjoying yourself again!

A few other ways to give self-love is to:

1. Spend quality time with yourself.2. Pick up an old hobby you've enjoyed or finish one you started.3. Work on improving your flaws and imperfections. Visit a bookstore and educate yourself on how to overcome your weaknesses.4. Write down your goals and dreams. Work on making them become a reality. Show yourself true self-love by meeting your needs.5. Do something you always wanted to do. Return to college, travel, or get a job.6. Keep a journal. Keeping a journal is an excellent way of getting to know yourself and expressing yourself. 7. Continue with the New Year's goals you started and progressively update and revise your list.8. Make new friends.9. Have a heart-to-heart talk with yourself. Ask yourself, if the way you're doing things now is working for you? What needs to change or improve?

One thing we must always remember, is that we set the example to others of how we want to be treated- by how we treat ourselves. If we want others to respect us and love us, we must love and respect ourselves. So, on Valentine's Day and throughout the year remember to love yourself. Oh, and remember that little Valentine's Day teddy bear you saw on the shelf that you liked or the plant you saw on display? Find a small gift to buy yourself this month as a reminder of just how much you are loved... by YOU!

"I am a big believer in the 'mirror test.' All that matters is if you can look in the mirror and honestly tell the person you see there, that you've done your best." ~ John McKay

Deanne P. Wells is the owner and Editor of the South Texas Women's World Magazine, a life coach, speaker, and author. She has published several self-improvement and motivational articles on life empowering topics. She assists women in business and personal to provide insight, structure, and encouragement in reaching their full potential.

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