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Discipline for the "I Want It Now" Personality

April 17, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 131

No one likes the word "no."

No one.

It feels like a door slammed in your face, like the curtain closes and refuses to let in the sun. It makes us believe the person saying it doesn't care. Actually, it feels like hate.

I recall my three year old daughter persistently wanting to grab the cat. She asserted her strong three year old arms around our unsuspecting kitty and tugged and pulled and shoved that poor animal around.

The cat would meow a short meow. She didn't want to hurt the child, she loved the child. But we're talking pain here. The meow would become a growl and low rumble. Then the patient feline would strike my poor, not so innocent daughter. A scream tumbled through the lips of my precious one.

This scenario played itself out many times.

For your edification, I played a role in this ongoing drama. It began with me gently grabbing the cat from my munchkins arms. I relocated the cat, who seemed to want punishment because she regularly returned to the scene of the crime.

I explained to my insistent child, "the cat doesn't like what you're doing."

Nothing I did mattered. When I asked her why she kept doing this painful thing - painful to both parties - my daughter would repeatedly say, "because I want to."

Our home echoed with the sound of, "put down the cat," "be nice to the cat," "if you care, be kind."

It did no good. She wanted what she wanted when she wanted it and no conversational tool or motivational tool at my disposal would deter her from this path.

Eventually the words came more sternly from the protective mama. "No! Stop it!"

Why? Because my protective nature required I guard the cat from the child, but also because I could see the writing on the wall. My child was going to get scratched, and she did, more than once.

At one point, follow a particularly stern "no," my daughter screamed back, "You hate me!"

That's how it feels when we hear "no."

As she has grown, I've discovered the value of letting her fail as a way of learning, but the use of "no" still comes in handy at appropriate times.

God does the same thing with us. He prevents us from making choices we believe will bring us joy, He can see the writing on the wall. He closes doors in our lives, He teaches us, He disciplines us.

I often hear people say, "prayer works," when they see the evidence of a "yes" from God. In my life, prayer has worked in the "no" moments too. Like when I fell for a guy who seemed like the perfect person at that moment, boy was I wrong. God was right.

I've prayed for many things which seem completely justified and right at the time, but God hasn't always said "yes." For some of those instances I still wonder about His reasoning, but other times I'm certain I wanted what I wanted when I wanted it, and He said "no."

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Hebrews 12:11

The result of my persistent "no" in the face of the ongoing cat/daughter struggle came when I realized the cat still likes her. The cat seeks her out when she isn't being squeezed like a tube of toothpaste. I don't have to worry about feline restitution. Our house does have peace.

Depending upon the reason for God's discipline, we may not see the peace immediately, but we will see it if we continue to trust.

Have you felt God's discipline in your life? If you've seen the peaceful result please share with us in the comments section so we can be encouraged by your story.

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Paula's writes and speaks to help couples and families grow through her faithful choices approach to life. As a wife, mom, ordained pastor and persistent friend Paula knows the value of the choices we make each day. She longs to help people get where they want to go by helping them see the choices available to them. As the Faithful Choice Advocate Paula writes a daily blog at

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