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January 28, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 178

You feel sad, downhearted. Broken down and dejected.

What's the matter with you?

"My girl (or guy) left me."

To you I say, that is not the problem my friend.

The real problem is that you are placing too much of your happiness in the hands of another. Have you ever heard the saying that you can never be happy with someone until you're happy just being single?

Whoever came up with that was a very wise person.

Let me ask you a quick question:

You've been single before... right?

Right. And I'll bet that back then you weren't particularly sad. Were you?

Of course not. You had fun. You did your thing. The problem you've got right now is that you've lost your sense of self. And it's about time you got it back.

This isn't the time for sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself. Because in my experience, action is the very best antidote to despair. It's only when we are sitting around doing nothing that we feel sorry for ourselves.

So get out and engage with life. It's far too short to spend beating yourself up over an ex.

I have a particular theory... but first, do you know why they call that first hook-up after a break-up a rebound relationship?

It's because it stops you from hitting the pavement and making a big mess!

Embrace it. Who cares if she (or he) doesn't become the future Mr. or Mrs. so-and-so? Have fun dammit.

Life is far too short to be worrying about such things (great, now I'm repeating myself).

Look. Here are some pointers for next time, and to help you lose that awful, repelling stench of the desperate single.

First Principle

Give yourself options! The best way to quit your fixating on that one that got away is to date. Not just one person. Date as many as you can. I have a hunch right now that you've been focusing so much on your ex that you've been blinded to the awesome abundance of other tastier and more exciting fish swimming all around you.

Sample my friend. Get some perspective.

Second Principle

Quit being a pathetic chump.

In other words, grow some backbone.

You know, most guys these days are pathetic chumps. They really are (women too). They tend to their partners ever desire, following them around puppy-like with a look of helpless desire... No wonder they can't keep a functioning and passionate relationship.

True passion. And I'm talking about the real thing here. Can only exist when you are willing to walk away at a moments notice. When you aren't afraid to command the respect that you deserve.

When you have the spine to actually (gasp!) disagree with your partner.

By the way, if you're a girl this applies equally to you.

When you show some self-confidence. And lose that desperation. You stand out like a King among a crowd of pawns.

Third Principle

Don't be so quick to fall in love.

This applies more to guys, but of course there are girls out there who are guilty too.

Simply put. Don't be so quickly and easily conquered. Romance is in the chase. It's in the challenge.

Really, it's all about how much you value yourself. Your self-confidence.

If you believe she is an amazing goddess who you'd do anything to win over. You lose.

But when you keep in mind the truth. That you are a great catch. That you are someone that anyone would be lucky to end up with. Then you're on the right path.

Wrap Up

We got a little off track there didn't we?

But it's something you needed to hear. In the end it all comes down to two things. To get over a break-up fast you need to break your fixation on your ex. And you have to increase your options.

The way you do that by getting out there and dating.

And just between you and me... if you still hold a flame for your ex, none of what I have just told you will decrease your chances one bit. Quite the opposite in fact.

By Bert Gardner.

For more relationship help and articles by Bert, check out the archives at The Relationship Guide

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