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Fantasy Vs Reality in Long-Term Relationships

January 10, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 189

Think about all those desirable traits you see in your partner as your relationship first blossoms. Now--be honest with yourself--could those very same traits look very different after a decade of marriage? Ask yourself the following questions about your beloved. No cheating on this quiz--the answers could make all the difference.

Here are some important questions to ask about your new romantic interest:

Is your partner interested and attentive to detail--or compulsive and controlling?

Is your partner generous and giving--or extravagant and wasteful?

Is your partner stylishly and perfectly dressed--or a shopping addict?

Is your partner spontaneous and fun-loving--or impulsive and irresponsible?

Is your partner giddy, joyful and expressive--or symptomatic of a manic episode?

Is your partner just "a loner type"--or is s/he suffering from depressive symptoms?

Is your partner's refusal to cook a single meal an act of liberation--or something that will yield resentment as time passes?

Is your partner socially independent--or alienated from all family and friends?

Does your partner use the bathroom for quiet time away from the kids--or is s/he purging?

Does your partner like cozy evenings at home--or is s/he anti-social?

Does your partner have a superlative family support system--or is s/he enmeshed with her family of origin?

Is your partner economically frugal--or does s/he buy things at Nordstrom's Rack & return them to Nordstrom's to get more money back?

Is your partner's demeanor pleasant "enough of the time"--or does that demeanor slip into scary rages, say in traffic, or with a waiter?

Does your partner have nice accumulated bank accounts and investments--or is s/he miserly with small expenditures?

Is your partner a healthy, vegan-oriented, food economist--or using health as a masquerade for an eating disorder?

There's no answer key at the end of this quiz--just your own thoughts about the questions that have been posed. Do yourself a favor--make sure you know the answers, and make sure they bode well for your future.

Candida Abrahamson has been Chicago-area mediator, counselor, and hypnotherapist for over 25 years. Find out more about Candida and her work on her website at To read Candida's in-depth writing on a variety of topics, check out her blog at

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