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Attracting the Right Partner

January 02, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 146

I read a lot of advice articles, and I find that a lot seem selfish and one sided, almost like they cater to the brokenhearted, feeding the flames of misery. If you're single and you are ready to be in a relationship, you need to get your life and mind right. Mr. or Ms. Perfect isn't going to simply waltz into your life and bring you bliss. No, you're going to have to attract them.

I am constantly amazed by people who talk about how they want this, or they want that, but when I ask them why their dreamboat should choose them, their simple answer is "Well, who wouldn't want me?" I sure wouldn't. Not with an answer like that! Relationships aren't one sided. It takes 2 people committed to the same goals and desires. Instead of putting so much focus on what a potential partner may bring, perhaps it's time to start thinking about what you're ready to bring to the table, in a real and tangible sense.

Everything you want from a partner you're going to have to be. No exceptions, no double standards... Even Steven! If you're looking for someone who is stable and successful, don't you think that they are looking for that too? So are you? Is your life at a place where you're going to attract the type of person you want? You can't expect to do nothing, and expect great things in return.

Be the love you seek.

Yea, it's totally cliché. But there is so much truth to it. You can't carry previous baggage and unrealistic expectations into a new relationship and expect it to be any better. You can't be unhappy with yourself and your career, and expect someone to make your life better for you.

A relationship is only one aspect of your life. It's not your whole life. Make your life happy first by going for the new job, or upgrading your skills. If you don't like the way you look, then hit the gym and lose that weight. Then you'll be in a personal "happy place", and all those you meet will pick up on your energy, and that becomes attractive.

Attracting the right partner means being responsible for your happiness and to your part of the bargain. Don't settle for second best and become disappointed they don't change. And don't walk around announcing your good traits either, simply be ready when the time comes, to do whatever is necessary to make things work. When you've attracted the right partner, they will be willing to so the same.

Elliot Zovighian is a life coach, speaker, author, blogger is the owner of EZ Lifestyles, a life coaching company from Toronto, Canada. His daily blog offers articles and advice on such subjects as life skills, work and career, relationships, parenting, featured videos and more.

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