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Planning and Performing a Great Best Man Speech

April 20, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 201

Giving a Best Man speech at a wedding is something in life that most men dread. Being asked to be a Best Man in the first instance will most probably fill you with joy and most certainly you'll be proud but after a short while realisation will set in that you'll be standing in front of a crown of family and friends who are expecting a heartfelt and amusing speech. For most men, public speaking is not their forte and nerves can easily get the better of them even if the speech has been planned down to the very last detail and rehearsed numerous times.

There are many ways of making a public speech and in the short amount of time you have with all eyes and ears focussed on you it's important to have a well structured speech that not only you are comfortable with, but the Bride and Groom will also be comfortable with. This doesn't mean you have to share the intricate details of the speech with them but it's not uncommon for the Groom to proof the speech.

Before the Best Man's speech it's quite common for the Father of the Bride to want to say a few words about the newlyweds, in particular about his daughter. During this brief speech he will congratulate the happy couple and quite often will welcome the Groom into the family. Once he has made his short speech and thanked who he wishes to thank it's customary for him to raise a toast to the Bride and Groom. It is also traditional after the Father of the Bride's speech for the Groom to say a few words. In some case's the Groom will speak after the Best Man and make his thanks on behalf of himself and his wife. The Groom's speech will usually end with a romantic gesture of how beautiful his wife looks.

When the time is ready for the speech it's important to make a great first impression. It's likely you may be introduced by a professional toastmaster or the Bride's father, so now is not the time to let your nerves get the better of you. The feel-good factor most certainly features and adding in some witty lines into your speech is always a crowd pleaser! Making remarks tongue in cheek is acceptable but as long as it's known where to draw the line as offending guests or family during the speech is the worst mistake. A few obvious but necessary to mention don'ts are mentioning past relationships, offensive or excessive bad language. Balancing out the speech with slightly embarrassing stories involving the Groom is acceptable although this balancing act is one to take with caution. There are many books about wiring and giving Best Man speeches and you'll even find sample jokes and popular anecdotes which can be used or adapted to your own personal relationship with the Bride and Groom.

Planning the speech well in advance is the key to every successful speech. Trying to wing it or perform a speech off the cuff should be avoided at all times. Alcohol is well known for throwing people into a false sense of confidence and there is better time to understand that than when planning for a speech of this importance. If possible, drink a minimal amount of alcohol before the speech, there will be plenty of time afterwards to enjoy a tipple!

Practising your speech is essential to performing a great speech on the actual day. Use family members and friends and don't be offended if your first speech doesn't produce the desired results. At this stage you still have ample time to fine tune your speech.

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