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Tips for Co-Parenting and Custody After Divorce

February 22, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 147

Parenting is never easy, especially for new parents. They usually don't know how to handle the little situations that might arise that nobody warns you of and nobody prepares you for. Parents often feel like new parents again after they get divorced. Many are unsure how to conduct themselves as parents with their ex-spouse no longer in the same house. A lot see their ex-spouse as some kind of enemy, and are unsure of how to act around their ex-spouse when the kids are present. The following are some helpful tips to co-parenting and dealing with custody following the divorce.

The court is going to act in the best interests of the child on all matters. When determining custody, the court considers several factors from the earning capabilities of both parents and the relationship that the child has with each parent, among many other things. Shared custody is often a desirable outcome of court cases, and many end up sharing legal custody of the children, allowing them to share responsibility for making decisions affecting the child's life. Even if physical custody is granted to one parent, the other is often given visitation rights. It's unfair for anybody to suggest accepting the court's decision, so speak with an attorney if you feel you want to appeal the decision or are unhappy with the terms of your custody arrangement.

But whatever happens in the courtroom, try your best not to drag your children into it. Many children feel the need to comfort one of the parents through the process. This can place a tremendous emotional strain on the child, especially if they're forced to play mediator. Try not to talk poorly of your ex-spouse, and if they begin a new relationship, avoid speaking poorly of this person as well. Exceptions exist when you believe the children may be in danger as a result of the new relationship, but generally it can place a strain on the children when they are forced to choose between parents.

Respect parenting decisions made by the other parent. If you disagree with a decision they made, go to the parent; do not explain to the children that the decision was wrong. This often pits the children against one parent, or makes one look like the bad guy. Most importantly, maintain communication with the other parent for the sake of your children, and try to maintain a civil relationship.

If you are considering modifying your divorce arrangement, take action and contact an experienced and professional Post Divorce Lawyer in your area. For people with who are located or have a California Divorce Case, visit the offices of Diefer Law Group

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