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Tips For Co Parenting After Divorce

March 31, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 161

Common Ground

Find some common ground to stand on as divorcees. Accept the fact that your family has split into two separate homes, rather than one. That is one of the tougher realities of divorce for some to grasp. The fact that you no longer have any control over what happens in each others homes. Accept and respect that your ex as well as yourself has a right to happiness. Agree to disagree rather than pounding away at your differences.

Stay Focused

Keep in mind that the child's best interest is what is important. Don't let yourself get wrapped up in the criticisms of your ex's new life. Find a neutral, comfortable surrounding to exchange the child after visits. This makes it less stressful for the child. Neutral ground during child exchange also makes the transition easier for parents because they don't feel as defensive and territorial when exchanging the child somewhere other than the home.

Working Together, Apart

Your decisions concerning the child's future should still be made by both parents. Be supportive of one anthers decisions whether you agree with one another or not. Supporting each others decisions concerning the up bringing of the child is healthy for the child, also it keeps the child from playing one parent against the other. This way the child doesn't gain control of the parents, rather than the parents having control over the child.

Accepting New Beginnings

If you or your ex decide to re-marry, this can be very hard for the child to accept. Sometimes this can even be difficult for the adults to accept. As a parent you should take into consideration that this new person is going to play a large role in the child's future life. A new marriage can often make a child have feelings of jealousy. Explain to the child that each person is entitled to happiness and that if we love that person we need to be happy for them. Point out some of the good qualities that this new person has, and some of the good that they will bring into their life. Rather than, as an ex, focusing on the faults of this new person which may sometimes seem easier to do.

Divorce doesn't happen in church. A large percentage of today's divorce cases are based on irreconcilable differences. It can be difficult to set aside differences and learn to keep the peace per say. Sometimes, however, it is easier to get along, apart. Try these tips on co parenting if you are a divorced family and see if they make a difference in the relationships in your life.

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