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Moving on From Divorce For Men - The Finish Line

February 18, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 157

If divorce recovery for men was a journey, what would the finish line look like? If it were a race, who would the competitors be? If this was some sort of contest, what would the glittering prize for he successful be? Moving on from divorce for men can be likened a lot to some sort of race, or journey to an end point. Along the way there are pitfalls and traps and difficult turns. At then end we do expect that prize also - unless you cannot even see the path ahead - then there is no motivation to even move.

First up, what would the finish line look like? What would the end of the pain, humiliation, anger and depression be to you? If you are lost and cannot see the end this is the time to look and start imagining it. The end result is what YOU want it to be because it will be different for every man. It is a vision, a dream of the future, an inspirational goal that might change and shift and you might not even get to that exact point. However, having this outline of the future is ESSENTIAL for you to be able to move towards it and get there even if the metaphorical chequered ribbon becomes a waving flag - both signify and end goal so don't quibble!

Who are the competitors in this race also? Think long and hard about this... because the only answer anyone can come to that is healthy is YOURSELF. You are not competing against your ex wife, against society, against her lover, against the legal system or anything else. The only person in this race is you... you either get to the end, or you give up and sit by the side of the track. This means you only need to worry about yourself when it comes down to it, and your children if you have them of course but they are your cheerleaders not competitors!

What is the glittering prize? Well, that dream you had at the start of the race might not be the actual end goal for you and that is ok. It could be so many things you just cannot fathom what it could be and you should not waste too much time trying to predict. The main prize is that you become happy within yourself, that you will no longer feel the anger, the depression, the loneliness. That you have readjusted your ego to see yourself as a whole person not one torn asunder by the fates during your divorce. That is the true goal, but it will take a different shape for each man - but leave a similar legacy for all.

So this is all future thinking, how do you even get to the point where you can imagine moving on after divorce? Click below to learn more on overcoming the pain of breaking up so you can speed up recovery much faster!

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