Author Box
Articles Categories
All Categories
Articles Resources

He Broke Up With Me! Now What?

March 27, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 183

While breakups happen every day, when you are the person experiencing the end of a relationship it can be an incredibly painful time. You may even question whether you will ever manage to get out of your bed, let alone take a shower and get dressed. It is important to remember that what you are feeling is absolutely normal: You are grieving. And just about every woman on the planet will share this experience at some point in her life, even though it feels as if you are completely alone. And there are things you can do to make the healing process smoother.

I hate him. I love him. I miss him. I hope I never see him again.

You will probably encounter a range of emotions during the coming weeks. One moment you may feel sad and disappointed about the loss of the hopes and dreams you once shared. The next moment you may feel anger that you were put in this position or confused about what part you had in the ending of the relationship. DABDA, the five stages of grief, include: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. They are not chronological. You may go from one to the other and back again before finally reaching acceptance.

I keep going over it in my head.

You need to process what has happened and people do this in different ways. This is a good time to call on those closest to you who will listen to you and support you. Some people find it soothing to keep a journal. Others may find it helpful to seek counsel from a therapist with a background in relationships or a spiritual mentor.

I am so numb.

You are very fragile right now and need to be sure to take care of yourself. Do nice things that make you feel good: bubble baths, exercise, reading a good book. This can even be a good time to develop new interests by taking a class where you can meet new people and discover things that may even make you feel energized again. Just be sure not to make any big decisions right now. You are dealing with a lot and will know when you are ready for that.

How long will I feel this way?

You have lost what may have been a major piece of your support system: maybe both financial and emotional. You are now on a journey to find other avenues for this support and that is a huge undertaking. There is no rule to how long the healing process will take. While some women are able to move on after a matter of weeks, others may take months (or even longer) to arrive at a point where they feel whole again. And while a song on the radio, or a scene from a book or movie may always trigger memories of the love you shared, the intensity of the pain you are feeling now is not permanent. It WILL get better.

Source: EzineArticles
Was this Helpful ?

Rate this Article

Article Tags:



Break Up




Starting Over




Healing Process

When speaking of celebrity weddings, they dresses are mostly tailored and designed form reputed international designers. Say for example, Dutch Victoria’s Secret model Doutzen Kroes. When speaking

By: Simon Liva l Relationships > Wedding l December 12, 2012 lViews: 216

Funny groom speeches play an important role in making the wedding atmosphere nice and relaxed. Wedding is all about celebration and enjoyment and the best way of adding to the celebration is to make

By: Bartley de Wilson l Relationships > Wedding l November 29, 2012 lViews: 219

The wedding cards of every religion have something peculiar and convey a lot about the religion. There are various online stores that are solely designing Muslim wedding cards and there is an option

By: Indian Wedding Card l Relationships > Wedding l November 29, 2012 lViews: 388

Practice makes pretty! Make sure the dance floor is right for the song and practice plenty of time before hand.Practice makes pretty! Make sure the dance floor is right for the song and practice

By: Simon Liva l Relationships > Wedding l November 21, 2012 lViews: 281

Wedding invitations are very important as they are the first impression and unique wedding invitations are generally kept by the guests. The wedding is an auspicious occasion and all the rituals are

By: Indian Wedding Card l Relationships > Wedding l November 16, 2012 lViews: 445

A closer look into the popular series of books called Fifty Shades of Grey that has spurred women all over America to get in touch with the sensual side in life. It's about letting your daily

By: martha l Relationships > Sexuality l October 25, 2012 lViews: 307

My daughter made a big mistake a few years ago when she got her divorce. While her emotions were still fresh and raw, she started a relationship with another man. It's easy to see why she did it. He

By: Kristie Brownl Relationships > Post Divorcel April 15, 2012 lViews: 251

In any phase of life, it is important to dream about your future. Dreams create hope, and hope motivates you to accomplishment.

By: Michael E McDermottl Relationships > Post Divorcel April 13, 2012 lViews: 209

When a marriage ends in divorce or, indeed, any significant relationship ends we add those experiences to our base of knowledge about ourselves and they do influence who we become. What we do with

By: Brian Connor Jamesl Relationships > Post Divorcel April 05, 2012 lViews: 185

Chaos can be very frightening for adults but this is especially true for children. A simple fact is that adults have more power than children and a greater ability to mitigate the chaos and

By: Brian Connor Jamesl Relationships > Post Divorcel April 05, 2012 lViews: 191

Co-parenting after divorce can have its difficulties. Within this article are suggestions on how to make the emotional environment healthier for the children, as well as the parents. If the parents

By: Chesley Swansonl Relationships > Post Divorcel April 04, 2012 lViews: 284

Divorced families are common. Many believe that since they are divorced they do not need to be considerate of their ex-spouse. In reality, you are still the child's parents, so being considerate

By: Heather L McAllisterl Relationships > Post Divorcel March 31, 2012 lViews: 162

Discuss this Article

comments powered by Disqus