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Finally! Studies Prove That Spanking Doesn't Work

April 21, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 167

"A new analysis concludes that spanking fails to alter kids' behavior in the long term. What it does instead is amp up their aggression." From Why Spanking Doesn't Work by Bonnie Rochman | Healthland | February 6, 2012

What do we mean when we say that spanking doesn't work? Doesn't it stop children from doing whatever it is you don't want them to do?

Want your kid to stop whatever dangerous/annoying/forbidden behavior he's doing right now? Spanking will probably work - for now.

But be prepared for that same child to be more aggressive toward you and his siblings, his friends and his eventual spouse. Oh, and get ready for some other antisocial behaviors too.

I remember years ago, seeing a cartoon with a man spanking a small boy over his knee, saying, "I'll teach you not to hit people smaller than you." Crazymaking!

Since children learn the most from role modeling, it makes sense that hitting children creates aggressive behavior. But what about 'Spare the rod and spoil the child?' The sad thing is that the literal translation of 'rod' is not 'stick,' but a symbol of authority.

Perhaps the more accurate translation of the Biblical passage is 'If you spare teaching the child, you will spoil the child.' Now that makes sense! And teaching the child mostly means being a loving role model of personal responsibility for your own feelings, behavior, honesty and integrity.

"We find children who are physically punished get more aggressive over time and those who are not physically punished get less aggressive over time," says Joan Durrant, the article's lead author and a child clinical psychologist and professor of family social sciences at the University of Manitoba.

The sad thing is that some research has concluded that 9 out of 10 parents say they use spanking as a punishment.

I found out in this article that 32 countries, including Sweden, much of Europe, Israel, Costa Rica, Tunisia and Kenya have a law prohibiting hitting children. I wish we would get on board in the U.S!

There is a deep underlying issue here that is beautifully addressed in "In Defense of Childhood: Protecting Kids' Inner Wildness," by Chris Mercogliano. The issue is between the false belief that children are born intrinsically bad and need to be tamed, and the knowing that children are born intrinsically filled with goodness and motivated to be all they can be. Given a safe, loving environment with excellent role modeling and mentoring, a child will learn and grow at an astounding speed.

I love the phrase 'inner wildness,' but obviously some parents fear their children's inner wildness. To me, this term means inner passion, aliveness, vitality and creativity. To scared parents, it means destructiveness. 45 years ago, when I had my first child, I did all I knew to preserve his inner wildness, but I didn't really understand how to do it. I knew not to hit or punish or judge, but I didn't understand the influence of school in suppressing inner wildness. Thankfully, my daughter understands this and is homeschooling my two little grandsons, raising them to be wild, wonderful, caring, creative, alive, vital, curious and so loving!

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to discover loving and joyful parenting? Click here for a FREE Inner Bonding Course and visit our website at for more articles and help. Phone and Skype Sessions Available. Join the thousands we have already helped and visit us now!

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