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Comparison Shopping Your Toddler's Abilities

June 11, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 151

Unfortunately as human beings it is in our innate character to compare ourselves with others. What is even worse is we tend to do it more so when we become parents. It is very difficult for us to separate how our child's development is compared to our neighbors baby Einstein, our best friend's fast paced two year old, our brother or sister's smarty pants or a plethora of other children.

As your child grows you typically associate yourself with parents or relatives who have children about the same age as your own. Comparisons are bound to happen and as each child begins to take interest and experience new things all sorts of comparing comes out of the woodwork. While not all parents like to admit it, most of us are guilty of it.

It seems like society has placed a time frame on when our child should be ready for that next stage in development. This can cause undue stress on a parent if they are constantly striving to keep up with what is status quo. What we should be focusing on is what we can do to make our child succeed and excel at their own pace; working with our children on a daily basis and providing them with encouragement and positive reinforcement.

It becomes very frustrating for parents to read about or see something that one child has done in the same age group and realize that their child isn't there yet. Relax, take a deep breath, and focus on how you can engage your child differently.

  • Learning abilities are so different and have such a broad range that most of the time it just takes stepping back from the problem and focusing on the end game. Provide them with educational games that will assist with learning.
  • Remain patient... Don't put a time frame on learning. As a parent this can be a very tough pill to swallow as you want your child to succeed. Trying to hurry along a learned behavior can be detrimental to a child if they feel they are not getting support for simply trying. It could cause them to regress and makes learning new things even harder.
  • Reevaluate where you child is coming from. Ask questions and stay open to changing up how you teach a new skill or behavior if it suits them better. Try to detach from mainstream and go at your own child's own pace. You will both get more from it and learning will be fun for both of you coming from a place of love and compassion.
  • Keep your child's personality in mind! Remember that what works for someone else's child may not work for your own. You know your child best so pay attention to the cues they give you when it comes to learning new things. How do they react when they do something correctly?
  • If you must compare, do it constructively. Use comparisons as a way to introduce new interests and skill sets. If you see something another child does and you want to see how your child does with it, make it fun for them. Introduce it as a game.
  • Tell them you are proud! At every juncture whether it is a major milestone or a simple task remind them daily that you love them and you are proud of them. Positive reinforcement will work and encourage them to continue with their new success.

Parenting will always be a constant work in progress both for you and for your child. Keep in mind that your child is unique to you and your family, not your neighbors or your child's playmates. Don't get consumed with anger or embarrassment if your child doesn't catch on to a new skill right away or simply shows no interest at all. Embrace the differences. Don't comparison shop your toddler's abilities with other children the same age, especially if it is something you have never tried before. Who knows... maybe your child can do something unique and awesome the other kids can't!

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