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Clear Expectations With Teenagers - Discipline Made Easy!

April 24, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 121

What do I mean by "clear expectations"? Every parent thinks they have a clear method of talking with their children/teenagers. Yet there are so many misunderstandings and frustrated parents and teenagers.

As parents we often have challenging episodes with our young people. Often we do not know what else we can do to get results or just get them to listen for even a minute. We try to persuade them, we try to lure them with things they might want - we try everything we can think of. Yet, often to no avail. I believe we often send unclear and muddled messages, which only lead to confusion and frustration between parents and teenagers.

Setting clear expectations regarding what is acceptable and what is not is imperative to successfully teaching our children what is right and wrong. If the rules are muddled and the child realizes that in one situation we react this way and the next time we react differently, it causes confusion and frustration on both sides.

Sit down with your teenagers well in advance and line out exactly the expectations and consequences of any misbehaving or any misdeeds. Make it crystal clear that there is no room for negation afterwards. When misbehaviour occurs, you will consequently be firm in the discipline. Rules regarding the child's safety, health or well-being should have no room for negotiation when being set or enforced. Other rules can be openly and honestly discussed with your teenager and an agreed upon action should be accepted by both parties. Whatever you decide, both parents and teenagers have to accept it. Lay it all out in black and white and in a language your teenager can clearly understand. For younger children it might be a good idea to develop a behaviour chart. It would be like a contract and when the child is especially good - a reward can be given or earned. Older children may get special time with Mom and Dad or another treat when they have shown special good behaviour.

All children need to understand that disciplining them is the adult way of teaching them what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. It often seems like children always fight against the rules and regulations, but deep inside they know that such parameters are meant for their well-being, health and safety. This is part of growing up and becoming a mature person in our society.

A responsible parent wants their teenagers to become respectable and mature adults that are a pillar in our society.

Anja Schaebe gives parents with relationship challenges hope and through the articles and blogs on her website, she shows a variety of secrets and steps on how to improve this challenging role for parents and teenagers. She has a son that is 19 and they have a phenomenal relationship. Take action now and visit the website and join the membership site and be connected to exciting information on the topic of "Being a Cool Parent"!

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