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Pushing Through Your Personal Barriers

April 19, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 141

What exactly is a personal barrier and why bother with them? Is it necessary to even give them time and energy, consideration or time?

Consider for a moment that everyone;

- has personal blind spots - has old emotional baggage - wants something better or different in their life - has emotional scars - needs some kind of help or guidance now and then - suffers from the impact of stress - carries some type of fear in their mind - is capable of doing or having more in their life - functions in the same world - filters everything in their life

So what does all of this have to do with our personal barriers and how to plow through them?

A barrier is nothing more than a temporary roadblock, detour or obstruction that forces us to seek a different path, move in another direction, take a different road or remain stuck while we wait for the barrier to be removed.

The biggest barriers people face are their emotional, psychological or attitudinal as opposed to their physical ones. These inner barriers are generally created by us and our attention to them, our constant awareness of them or our acceptance of them through our many years of conditioning from others, our personal experiences and our learning whether by accident or our active purpose to grow, learn and mature.

Failing to recognize, address and learn to overcome our inner barriers or effectively manage them so they don't prevent the loss of self-esteem, loss of inner peace or stall or even prevent the achievement of a person's potential or goals is an admission that we have little or no control of who we are, our weaknesses and that we are a victim to circumstances and have lack ability to achieve these in life.

What are some of the common barriers that people face?

-Past decisions that turned out badly and the ability to use them as learning tools to improve in the future.

-An over concern for the opinions of others and our need for approval, acceptance and/or validation.

-The fear of making decisions due to their uncertainty when it comes to outcomes or new unknowns that we must deal with.

-The emotional maturity to accept ourselves as humans who frequently do really dumb things caused by ego driven needs, arrogance or immaturity.

-Failure to confront our opinions, judgments or mindsets that do not serve us well and finding the courage to change them.

-The unwillingness to admit that we just don't know it all.

-The inability to take full responsibility for our actions, choices, decisions and behavior.

-Spending too much time in a mindset of blaming others or circumstances for our situations.

-Remaining in denial when all evidence proves that something we refuse to accept is real or true.

There are thousands of other barriers that people fail to successfully address that in a number of ways have a negative impact on the quality of a person's life both external and internal.

It takes awareness, attention, courage, inner work and patience to successfully handle your barriers but in the end if and when you are able to accomplish this - the outcomes are more than worth it. The question is simply - do you want something better in life and are you willing to do the work or are you willing to settle with what is - refusing to even try to deal with what may be preventing happiness, success and inner peace?

Tim Connor, CSP is an internationally renowned sales, management and leadership speaker, trainer and best selling author. Since 1981 he has given over 4000 presentations in 21 countries on a variety of sales, management, leadership and relationship topics. He is the best selling author of over 70 books including; Soft Sell, That's Life, SOLD, 81 Challenges Managers Face and Your First Year In Sales. He can be reached at, 704-895-1230 or visit his websites at

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