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Don't Be a Man's Doormat But Don't Be a Casting Director Either

April 25, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 175

I always want women to feel empowered enough not to be a doormat to a man's love.There is nothing that feels worse than compromising your self-esteem in the name of 'love'.

Love should make you feel great.It should make you feel like the best you there is.Love lifts us, it doesn't put us under the shoes of an ungrateful man.When you feel like a doormat, you are not experiencing love, you are seeking acceptance, and in love, there should ALREADY be acceptance.

Having a beautiful and healthy relationship is all about acceptance- accepting the other person completely for who they are inside their soul and accepting yourself enough to know your worth.

The key difference between being an accepting woman and being a doormat is a fine line; however, it's an important distinction.When you accept someone as they are, it doesn't mean you accept poor treatment from them.It doesn't mean you let them walk all over your feelings and needs.It doesn't mean you allow them to make you feel bad about yourself.When accepting another person you DO NOT judge them but you DO stick up for yourself; you accept them as much as you accept your own needs!

If a man is wounded from childhood or has a few unfavorable (even unattractive) traits, accepting his past and those unpleasant qualities is important.Love is not an audition where you are trying out a person for a while, keeping them feeling insecure about your feelings for them in order for you to see if they are good enough for you.

Love is a decision and you have to make the decision that if you are going to date a person, you are going to embrace them in their ENTIRETY and make them feel as secure in their skin as you can.You aren't going to roll your eyes at their weaknesses or point fingers at their flaws.You are going to be a true woman, and find the best way to empower your man to feel like the best man he can be.


If that man is making you feel less than the best version of yourself, you should tell him exactly how you feel inside and give him the opportunity to correct his shortcoming.Most men, after all, are more clueless than ill-willed, and they WANT to do good by you, they are just limited in their capacity to handle and have a quality, mature relationship.Voicing your feelings and working together to find solutions is the way to go.If he isn't willing to hear your feelings or help work with you to find solutions to your needs, you need to leave that relationship.

You can still accept him for who he is and send him lovingly out into the universe to find his own path toward happiness and love, but you can not stay his doormat.You can not be in a relationship with someone who doesn't show interest in your feelings and needs.That person is not interested in you and accepting your soul into their life, they are only interested in finding a "fixer" to their existential pain.

So think about the way your man makes you feel, express those feelings and take inventory of his 'level of willingness' to take care of you best he can.If his level of willingness is low, don't fool yourself into thinking that he just needs to be loved more purely and deeply by you in order to heal inside and have a real relationship with you.

You deserve his willingness!And he deserves not to be auditioned for the sake of your ego, but instead he should be offered a real part in your play from the moment you decide to hand him the script.

If you want to know how to love a man unconditionally and make him feel amazing as a man BUT WITHOUT sacrificing AN OUNCE of who you are as a beautiful, loving, sexy woman worth loving, then check out Kristina's program for women entitled Inspire His Love for You by visiting Also by Kristina: Red Rose Woman: The Enchantress Inside You

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