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February 04, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 160

Parental Conditioning

I look back over the previous ten years when a number of my friends became grandparents. I was happy for them and showed an interest in what was happening in the youngsters life. However, I did wonder what all the fuss about.

I didn't realise how wonderful this stage of my life would be with my grand darlings. If I had known what it felt to be loved unconditionally by my grandparents maybe I would not have said anything about waiting until I was 60 years young. At this stage I only feel like I'm about 35 years young.

Looking back on the way my parents interacted with my children I can see why I made this statement. I often wonder if they were this way because my children are adopted of if it was just the way my parents were? My parents were independent people who didn't have the time or the inclination to foster a deep and loving relationship with any of their grandchildren. I suppose I took on the programming or conditioning that my parents had shown towards their own grandchildren.

Lessons Learnt

Looking back at my Mother's life over the past 15 years and hearing the statements I don't have many visitors or "why don't the grandchildren visit now they have cars"? It was such a huge lesson to me of "what you give out, you get back tenfold". During the years of attempting to have my own children I decided that I wanted to have grandchildren in my life and have a great open and understanding relationship with them.

Now I fully understand the elation my friends felt when they became grandma and grandpa or nana and pop or whatever term of endearment they chose to be known by. Now. I share the wonderful and interesting moments I have with my granddaughters with this "special" group of people. Grandparents!

There are moments when watching my grand darlings play they bring back memories of when my children were that age and learning so much. It has given me another chance to capture those delightful times of wonderment when they are discovering and learning so much and at such a rapid rate. I feel this time round it is so much more relaxing as there isn't any thought of me trying to discipline them or making sure there is enough food and clothes. That is the role of their parents.

A Beautiful Moment

The most surreal moment I have experienced so far as a grandparent, was seeing the unconditional love my daughter has for her beautiful children. It is very hard to put those moments into words, however I will try. I felt there was such warmth, love and caring and that nothing was too much trouble. I did feel briefly like an intruder on seeing and feeling such a serene scene. Something I hadn't experienced myself prior. What that moment said to me.... unconditional love a grandparents joy.

As a grandmother or nana, I would like to be able to encourage my grand darlings to be aware of all the wonderful experiences and possibilities they can achieve in their lives. Including all the love they give back to their grandparents. I'm so grateful for these gifts.....grandchildren.

I would like to introduce myself I am Virginia Bergman, mother, nana, property investor and author. My aim is to inspire other women to take control of their financial situation, inspire people to live a wonderful life and to be of service to others. I'm currently setting up my blog on Brilliant Day Today and hopefully will have that up soon. In the meantime you can visit my other blog at

Have a "very brilliant" day.


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