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Why Being Friends First With a Woman May Not Be Your Best Bet

March 31, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 173

If you have ever gotten the advice that you should try and be friends first with a woman in order to have a chance at a relationship with her, then I am sure that it sounded like a good idea at first. After all, we all grow up watching the television shows and the movies where the hot girl eventually falls for her guy best friend and even if we consciously think that this may not be true all of the time, it has to seep into our subconscious mind at least a little bit. Continuously, I have heard the stories from men that have tried to do the friends first routine with a woman and most of the time, you know where it ends up getting them?

The friend zone. Frustrated. Not exactly the recipe for success, is it? What you have to realize is that women do something that men don't do. At least most of the time. And that is - they compartmentalize their guy friends into a category where it becomes "yucky" for them to think of that guy in any way that closely resembles a romance. In short, they think of their guy friends as being more like brothers than they do potential lovers. Is this true for ALL women? Probably not. However, it is true for more than enough of them that it is wise for a guy to realize that being friends first is not an automatic ticket to becoming her boyfriend.

It's good to have female friends. You can learn from them. You can have a fun time with them and they can even help you when it comes time to go out and meet women. The thing is, outside of a romantic comedy involving college kids, it usually does NOT lead to the whirlwind romance that you think it would. And that is okay. At least, I think it is. See, I have plenty of female friends. And even though some of them are really attractive, I get the fact that they just want to be friends.

That's not the problem. The problem is when the guy thinks that there can be something more than that. Truthfully, I get a kick out of going out to a club with my female friends and having them "help" me get women. They play the role of the wing woman and I get to reap the benefits of that. However, if you are thinking that you are going to wind up like they do in the movies and declare your undying love for your female friend and watch her turn around and embrace you... you are probably kidding yourself. Make friends with women, but know that it will probably not lead to a romance or a hook up.

If you meet a woman and you really like her and you can imagine yourself being more than just her buddy, then act like that from the onset. Don't try and work your way in there by being her pal and then turn around and say that you love her. That's not only ineffective, some women actually get a little unnerved by that.

It's much better for you to learn how to sexually attract women than to try and use the friends first routine.

Go here: Sexual Tension and Seduction if you want to know more about seduction and creating sexual tension with a woman.

Copyright © 2012 Chris G. Tyler All Rights Reserved.

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