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February 21, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 158

You have gone through the crying and the sleepless nights of your breakup. Now, you realize that your ex is not "The One" but you still want to keep that person in your life. You can actually consider the option of being your ex's friend. Remember, this would require a lot of patience, discipline, time, and effort from you. This might be very hard to do but we will help you take the right steps.

Figure out the cause of your breakup Examine what lead to your breakup. What was the reason that you broke up? Who initiated the breakup? Was it very dramatic and emotional? If your breakup was a nasty one or if you started it, it would usually take a longer period of time to befriend your ex. Emotions of sadness and pain are still there and wounds are fresh; it is best to let time pass by before starting your "new friendship".

Be sure both of you have gotten over the breakup The "friendship" would not work out very well if one or both of you still feel love, anger, hatred, and the like. This can bring up past problems and can complicate things again. So, take time to let those feelings cool off and get gone before starting being friends with your ex. Allow yourselves to accept and deal with the situation efficiently.

Make your intentions clear It is of great importance to think the reasons for building up a friendship with your ex. Weigh the advantages and disadvantages, and then decide. Do not ever consider reasons like thwarting your ex to date another person or reasons like making his/her life much more miserable. Make your friendship beneficial for the both of you.

Avoid being romantic Do not flirt or have sex with your ex if you want real friendship with him/her and if you have no intentions of getting him/her back in your life. You have been used to being touchy feely and being super romantic with him/her, but that was the past. You need to concentrate and focus on being your ex's friend if you really want to achieve that. Avoid leading each other on or treating each other like sex buddies.

Show consistency If you are aware of your intentions for building up the friendship, then always keep them in mind and make them as your guide. Be consistent in order to show him/her your sincerity and in order to later on gain a genuine friend in your ex. Do not turn out to be someone who is hot and cold or one who is obviously confused.

Do not blow your ex off for another person If ever you have some other person you are interested in, do not ever try to blow your ex off for him/her. Your ex might be still easily affected of the concept of "you and another guy/girl", so respect his/her feelings.

Check on your ex from time to time Be someone who still cares about him/her. Check how s/he is doing from time to time. Honor his/her special day by greeting or sending cards/gifts. This would help your ex know that you are still there for him/her as a supportive and loving friend.

Boost his/her self-esteem Always remind him/her that s/he is a special and great person that is why you want him/her to stay in your life. This can help your ex resolve the itsy bitsy pain inside him/her because s/he is reassured.

Strive to reach your own goals in life Do your best to move on from the past and to grow as a person. Do not bring up things from your gone relationship because this will only drag you back to the past. Work your best to achieve your own goals in life as an individual and not as his/her partner. Tell your ex to do the same so as to also help him/her.

Fredrick De La Salle is a writer and relationship coach. He runs a blog at How To Win Back Love where he writes about relationship issues. He specialises in relationship conflict such as getting your ex back

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