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A Candid Take on a Relationship

April 11, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 176

A relationship as we see is a bond that is born out of love, trust and compassion. It is that connection that connects individuals, helping them come out of their shells to enjoy the company, the joy, the excitement this bond has to offer. And it has always been a human prerogative to manoeuvre the relation the way he wants. However, the steering need not always have to be the right way. That is where the word healthy tags along with the term relationship. So what can be termed as a healthy relationship? How can one claim to have a healthy relationship? Let's find out!

People always fall in love. Don't they always? It need not necessarily be a boy girl thing. Love is also there, when girls need those feminine shoulders to vent out their tears over heart breaks and love losses and when guys need their beer buddies to gulp down work pressures, dumped and duped instances or even the feeling of yet to have a girl in life, with those mugs of chilled beer. In short, every relationship be it a romantic one or a platonic one or even those family ties, they all need that most essential ingredient that says, 'I care for you!' and that is: compassion. We live in a world where a healthy relationship has many connotations, considering which, all may not sound alike. For some, the word healthy ends where the emotional and the physical contentment is achieved and it never goes beyond a point whereas for some, it is all about living with more negatives than positives succumbing to the word acceptance and by not doing much to cure the self-inflicted pain whereas for a few, it is all about trying to fit somewhere near the word healthy by actually being honest to self and the others as well. So now if you ask me what would be the best way towards leading a healthy relationship, I would say it is all about observing and restraining self. Observing the relation with all eyes and ears and restraining self from giving in to those overbearing proclivities to retort/react/vent that often shake the bulwark of a healthy relation is what I would say is the most important tip towards a healthy relationship. Here when I say a healthy relationship, it means friendship too as I am taking quite a generic stand.

Now coming to the crux of my statement 'Observation' and 'Self restraint', what do you perceive? Just for an instance, you have had a tiff with a close one and you are totally messed up in the head and you know not what to do, what do you actually do? OK, let me break the actions further into what you do, and what you should do?

  • Well, if you were an impulsive person and are bursting out to vent hard feelings, you will instantly call up your friend/lover and vent out everything which would be mostly angry words and hurt feelings, not realizing or even caring to realize the impact of your actions OR you may call up an other friend (say a common one who may not be as close to you as your accused party) and rant about whatever happened. Perhaps, this other friend will be a good listener and may either genuinely care about you and help you calm down or may feign genuine care and probably add more fuel to your fiery breakdown OR may be blunt enough to point out your fickleness and reactive nature and may advise you to restrain your self from being the judgmental person.
  • OR, you would be doing what you should be doing and that is a self introspection. Sitting and analyzing: what, why and where AND giving yourself ample space and time to cool down and think rationally will be the two prime to do things in your memorandum. And this is what I mean by 'observation' followed by 'self restraint'. And then once the impulses have curbed, you will try to approach your person to settle the matter on a clear and serene note sans the verbal assaults of any kind.

And that is how one understands the relationship better, at least better than before, I would say. After all, it is not love and trust alone that play the major role in a relationship. It is also the courage to accept the shortcomings in a relation in the same stride as good as accepted are the good things about it. After all, nothing in life is perfect. It is all about enjoying and accepting the imperfections. It is all about knowing that there are always going to be two sides to a coin which will keep surfacing alternately. It is all about making sure that no matter how huge snow balls life intends to throw, it is all about standing strong and cementing the bulwark of a beautiful relationship with a lot of faith, patience and trust. After all, there is only one life which lets us understand the most beautiful aspect - a relationship. Isn't it?

Cheers to a healthy relation and lot of peace and happiness!

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