Author Box
Articles Categories
All Categories
Articles Resources

Dangers That Befall Elders From Their Children and Caregivers

January 26, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 138

Sadly, the persons who should love or care for a family member or charge with infirmities or old age, can and do perform terrible acts against their parents and the older people they care for. A trusted child or caregiver can succeed in cheating an elder out of money and property by means of mental, physical and or financial elder abuse. Elder abuse is achieved by coercion and undue influence coupled with the elder's fear of being alone and unassisted. Elders often give in to physical threats that the caregiver will leave them alone, hit them, or not take them to the bathroom. Elders are especially susceptible to emotional threats or fear that the family member will not love or continue to visit them.

The following is a list of things are some of the dangers I have seen during my years of practicing elder law. If you read through the list and recognize what people might try to do to you, you might be better able to withstand their influence or call someone to help you withstand it. Some people to call are listed at the end of this article. You can get their local phone numbers in the front of your phone book or online.

Children and caregivers can and do:

Try to get their own name put on title of the house, either alone or as joint tenant with right of survivorship. This cuts other siblings off from inheriting the house. Try to get authority to write checks on your bank account. This means all the elder's money is usable by the caregiver. One of my clients' caregivers appropriated $45,000 from her charge's bank accounts. A conservator I know took $300,000 from the conservatee's accounts. Take the elder to the bank to withdraw funds of which they take control. Frequent bank visits can rapidly deplete the elder's resources. Get made joint tenant of a bank account. This means whatever is in the account at the principal's death automatically belongs to the surviving joint tenant. The rest of the kids get none of it. Try to get annuities or pension benefits put in their name. This allows them to cash in the full amount and leaves the elder without the monthly stipend. Of course, the elder has to pay the tax consequences. Try to conserve the elder to get control of all assets. This makes the elder totally dependent on the conservator for everything and it dehumanizes the elder because their desires and expressed needs are not heeded. Write a new will for the elders and induce them to sign it without the elder understanding the provisions. The new will is often executed as a result of coercion, such as a threat to never come visit them. Sometimes an elder will accede to this demand for fear of alienating the child or caregiver. This type of will is often contested, which costs the estate lots of money in a probate proceeding. Get cars and other property titled in their names. It's amazing how much finagling and cheating someone will undergo to get an old car that isn't worth much money. If the car is new and more valuable, they work faster and harder to get it in their name. Take away the elder's driver's license or identification, credit and debit cards and checkbooks. This makes the elder totally defenseless and dependent on the generosity of the person who took their cards and money. Take control of the money and credit cards. After gaining control, they give the elder a minuscule sum of money each month, keeping the rest for themselves. In one family, the children used an online grocery delivery service to place expensive orders of unnecessary and inappropriate food with no concern about the elder's preferences and needs. Fail to take an elder to doctors or provide their medicines. One conservator denied her mother prescribed daily medicines for 8 weeks. Get named health care agent. In this way, the agent can influence medical staff negatively about the elder to get the elder conserved or improperly treated so they will die sooner. I saw one perfectly healthy lady get conserved, waste away from depression and malnutrition, be zoned out from medication she didn't need, and die six months later.

If anything like this is happening to you or someone you know who is over 65, it is elder abuse. The elder shouldn't just take it and keep quiet. Call someone who can stop the abuse. Here is a suggested list of who to call. If they can't help you, they'll give you the number of someone who can help.

An elder law lawyerHELPLINK 1.800.273.6222Your Local Council on AgingYour county's Adult Protective ServicesSeniors at HomeDon't Borrow TroubleCANHR 1.800.474.1116

Before any of the dangers listed above happens to you, you should form a relationship with an Estate Planning and Elder Law Attorney who will provide the legal documents that will keep you well cared for in case you become ill or lose mental or physical capacity to care for yourself. You can execute a Durable Power of Attorney for finances, an Advance Health Care Directive or Living Will for health care decisions, and even a Care Contract with a caregiver.

Remember, the only one you can trust to plan efficiently to take care of your interests is yourself. Make sure you are knowledgeable about the available powers of attorney for finances and for health decisions and have planned in advance what to do if you should become unable to manage your own financial and health affairs.

DERRYL H. MOLINA is an Estate Planning and Elder Law Attorney, as well as a mediator, in San Jose, California, who helps clients to execute, reform and administer trusts and offers assistance with conflict-resolution, Elder Law and Medi-Cal Planning. She can also handle your matter in contracts, Probate, Conservatorships or Guardianships. In fact, she can serve as your Full Life Care Planning Attorney. You can contact Derryl H. Molina at 408.244.4992 or at her email:

Source: EzineArticles
Was this Helpful ?

Rate this Article

Article Tags:

Elder Abuse


Joint Tenant




Power Of Attorney


Undue Influence


Health Care





Thus, you can apply for the negligence compensation under such circumstances in order to recover your loss, Negligence Claims, Negligence compensation Involvedness of Negligence Claims. The court

By: Simon Liva l Legal > Personal Injury l December 13, 2012 lViews: 291

If a lawyer is not able to devote enough time to your case then your defense is likely to suffer. Moreover specialization in one stream or other of defense is important so that the attorney can

By: Simon Liva l Legal > Criminal Law l December 12, 2012 lViews: 429

Filing a business bankruptcy can be a complex and critical task, but you have several options. You can consult your bankruptcy attorney to know which among those options is right for you.This is a

By: Harvard McIntosh l Legal > Corporations LLC l December 11, 2012 lViews: 235

You can always check for the treatments that are covered. This is because there are some policies which do not give you claims if you meet any kind of head injury.You can always check for the

By: Simon Liva l Legal > Personal Injury l November 05, 2012 lViews: 241

In Colorado, you have many Personal Injury Lawyers to choose from. When you choose the Law Offices of Andrew C. Bubb you instantly put years of experience and legal know how in your corner. Attorney

By: Dilshad l Legal > Personal Injury l October 25, 2012 lViews: 389

If you have been charged with a crime, speak with Boulder criminal defense attorney Steven Louth immediately to protect your rights. Steven Louth is a criminal defense attorney and criminal trial

By: Dilshad l Legal > Personal Injury l October 18, 2012 lViews: 244

As some of society's most vulnerable people, it is not difficult for the elderly to be taken advantage of, even abused or neglected. These are common misbehaviors that take place within nursing home

By: Chris Limberopoulosl Legal > Elder Lawl April 17, 2012 lViews: 149

When someone dies intestate, it does not necessarily mean that all of the deceased's assets and liabilities should go unaccounted for. Beneficiaries of the deceased could seek legal advice from a

By: Jason S Armstrongl Legal > Elder Lawl April 12, 2012 lViews: 186

Most Florida residents want to keep their estates out of probate. Making assets payable on death can sometimes accomplish this, but this method can present drawbacks.

By: Joseph Karpl Legal > Elder Lawl April 02, 2012 lViews: 177

Prenuptial agreements are valid and enforceable in Oregon. We frequently advise clients to have a prenuptial agreement in place if they have children from a prior relationship or this marriage will

By: Kevin Tillsonl Legal > Elder Lawl March 27, 2012 lViews: 186

Elder law commonly encompasses a variety of issues such as estate planning, care of the elderly, financial scams, elder abuse and other situations that are detrimental to the wellbeing of the

By: Kerry Peckl Legal > Elder Lawl March 26, 2012 lViews: 186

Elder law attorneys can help people prepare for various end-of-life scenarios by assisting them in planning advance directives, living wills and other documents. Estate planning lawyers offer

By: Kerry Peckl Legal > Elder Lawl March 26, 2012 lViews: 222

Any kind of dispute between individuals is appropriate for mediation whether it is a divorce agreement, a landlord tenant conflict, or a worker and employer misunderstanding. Where there are people,

By: Derryl H Molinal Legal > Family Law and Divorcel February 21, 2012 lViews: 164