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When Is It Too Much to Ask For Help?

April 18, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 139

It was too much to ask. But I asked anyway.

Our elderly neighbor, let's call him Joe for the sake of privacy, had fallen and was now stuck on the floor. Joe had spent the last 12 hours lying in an uncomfortable position after a failed attempt to get himself back into bed. He had spent the night trying to raise himself to the bed, but found himself unable to pull his own weight.

When Joe's sister asked for help, my oldest son jumped up without hesitation. Within a few minutes he had Joe off the floor. It was obvious that Joe had had an "accident" and yet, this quiet 18 year old simply helped without complaint.

The real test came the next day when Joe found himself stuck once more. He spent 15 hours stuck on the toilet. Can you imagine? I am still in my 40's, so the thought of being this vulnerable is devastating. My family had also just enjoyed a "Myth Busters" show where they tested just how long one could sit on a toilet before their legs became useless. (It was minutes, not 15 hours!). My son simply helped Joe.

My son (Lets call him Tom) helped him stand, pull up his pants, and inch his way back to bed. Tom quietly encouraged Joe, "One more step! You're almost there!"

After the ordeal, Tom and I walked home. Tom was anxious to change clothes and get cleaned up. (Poor Joe was in worse condition than the previous day).

I spent the next few days in awe of my amazing son. He didn't complain. Even though he had only met Joe once before, he rushed to his aid without hesitation. He never mentioned the smell or the conditions he had to work in, he simply did the right thing.

It begs the question: When is it too much to ask for help? Tom didn't owe Joe anything. They are not related. They had never even shared a conversation.

My answer is based on my own opinion, but I believe it is never too much to ask of another. I believe so many people are suffering because they fear their pleas for help will go unnoticed. I know I have a unique son. He is in the center of one of the most self-centered phases of his life, and yet he reached out to help another.

My point? Keep your eyes and ears open. If someone needs help, lend your hand. Treat those around you (especially the elderly) the way you would want to be treated.

If my mom fell in her home, which is 2,000 miles away from me, I would hope her neighbor would come to her rescue.

If I fell, I hope my neighbors would help me.

Is there such a thing as "too much to ask"? Probably. But ask anyway. Help anyway.

Bekki Sayler is a mother, teacher, wife, and author. She spends her days surrounded by her boys as they explore the world through home-schooling and her evenings chatting with her husband and writing. Her hearts desire is to inspire and equip others to live their lives "On Purpose".

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