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Why Do Boyfriends Abuse Their Girlfriends?

April 11, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 336

The best answer I can give for 'Why do boyfriends abuse their girlfriends' is: Because they do not know any better. If you have been, or are being verbally, emotionally and physically abused by your boyfriend, this is what you need to know to change your situation now...

All reasons for why boyfriends abuse their girlfriends point to the same conclusion. Boyfriends abuse their girlfriends verbally, emotionally or physically, because they do not have an awareness that their behaviour is hurting someone. If they do have an awareness, they simply do not care enough about their girlfriends to stop hurting them. This is NOT normal. My experience is that most men are extremely decent, loving and caring people, who have strong desires to protect and love the people they care about - especially the females in their life.

If you find yourself in a relationship where your boyfriend abuses you, I highly encourage that you give yourself the chance to widen your social circle and meet men from different walks of life. To do this, spend time in a completely different place. Go somewhere NICE that you have never been to before. Dress as neatly as you can and observe how other men behave towards the women they are with. Do your own experiment by noticing at least 10 different men. Bring a notebook with you and record your observations of the way they dress and behave - especially towards women or their girlfriend. If a man comes and talks to you, smile demurely and let him do the talking. If he abuses you in any way or makes you uncomfortable, get away from him. There is no need to retaliate and abuse him back. Just walk away or shout for help. Do something different.

In life, it is so important that we don't keep doing the same thing while expecting for a different result. Think about it: If you want to colour a Sun yellow, but you keep using the same red crayon over and over again, how are you going to achieve the result that you want? The only chance you have of colouring your Sun yellow, is to use a different crayon, even if you do not know what other crayons you have yet. Yes, you may end up with many different coloured suns on your paper, but at least you used every crayon you had, instead of only sticking with something that has already proven itself to be unsuitable for your needs.

So what I am saying is: If you desire to have a boyfriend who treats you with loving care, consideration and affection, choose a different boyfriend. Don't stay with a boyfriend who has already proven himself incapable of consistently behaving with verbal, physical and emotional decency and caring. Men really do not change that much. And it is not your job to hang around waiting to see if a guy ever changes. It is your job to take good care of yourself. Once your abusive boyfriend has already shown you he is a "red crayon", he is not what you are looking for. Summon up as much courage and self-love as you can, and embark on a new and better journey instead. Ask other people for their help and support. Give yourself the gift of opening yourself up to better possibilities. Learn from your mistakes so you can choose your boyfriend more carefully and wisely in future.

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