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How to Get Help If You Are Being Abused

April 13, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 323

Abuse comes in many different forms. Many people think that unless you are being beaten on a regular basis, you are not being abused. Abuse can be physical, mental, emotional, sexual or verbal. All types of abuse are wrong and should not be overlooked.

Stop Making Excuses

The first step to getting you some help is to stop making excuses. Being abused is not your fault. Just because your significant other had a bad day, did not have dinner ready when he came home or the house is not spotless, is not an excuse for him to abuse you. The first step to getting better is realizing that you deserve better. You may have tried to talk to your spouse or your significant other about this abusive behavior and told him how you feel about it. You make the same excuses that he does. You believe that he can't help himself because he was abused as a child. This has to stop because no matter how a person was raised, there is a point in life where you realize and recognize right from wrong. Stop making excuse.

Talk to Someone You can Trust

Having low self-esteem is common among people who are being abused. That is one of the tactics of the abuser; to make you feel so low about yourself that you do not have the urge or even thought to stand up for yourself. What you need is someone to confide in. Talk to a family member that you are close to, a coworker or maybe even someone from your church. Understand, this is someone you are talking to for moral support. The purpose of talking to someone is not to have him or her confront your abuser because this may make things worse for you. In addition, if someone confronts your abuser, he may in turn attempt to isolate you from people who are there to support you.

Create a Plan

One of the ways that a person can be abused is financially. Your abuser may control the money that comes in and out of the home to make you feel very dependent on them. They may keep track of every dollar that you spend and make sure that you do not have any extra money. If this is the case, you may have to go to your friends and family for assistance with this.

If you are earning your own income, make sure that you are wise with your money so that when you are able to get away from your abuser finances are not a reason for you to go back. Even if you have to save a few dollars here and there, it is progress.

Use Public Resources

There are many different programs for people that are being abused. These programs include safe houses, shelters, transitional living arrangements, and job training just to name a few. Many of these programs are offered for no cost and are designed with your safety in mind.

There is no excuse for someone to abuse you and there is no reason for you to remain in an unsafe situation. Get help before it is too late.

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