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What To Do When You Divorce Your Handyman

February 15, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 147

When repairs need to be done around your apartment or house, don't panic if you don't know the difference between a regular wrench and a crescent wrench.

I will be the first to admit, my Ex was a good handyman. We never called service for anything when married. Needless to say, I was hopelessly lost about home repairs when we divorced.

You know repairs will need to be done in your residence someday; it's not a matter of "IF" it's a matter of "WHEN".

Prepare for those days now!

I remember when my toilet backed-up in my townhouse about 1 year after my divorce, I panicked when the plunger didn't work. I dashed to the yellow pages, found the local plumber. I had him race over to fix the toilet.

He spent more time writing up the bill then he did using a snake to clear out the blockage. When he left I was holding a $180 bill. I was embarrassed, felt exploited as a woman and I cried. Then, I picked myself up by my bra straps and vowed to myself that would never happen again.

Solutions for The HandyWomen

You have what it takes to do simple home repairs. It is just a matter of getting over the mindset that it's difficult. It is not difficult, it is just different work.

I did have a box of tools my Ex gave me at the divorce. I never took the time to figure out what they were to be used for. I just kept them in the garage and used the hammer and one of two screwdrivers in there.

The Solution was simple. I asked a friend who was knowledgeable about tools. After he reviewed them, he told me what they were and from the discussion either kept the tool like a crescent wrench or the items like the wire strippers went (I'm terrified of electrical repairs!). He also gave me a list of suggested tools I should buy for future repairs... Like a snake for the toilets.

Get a Reference Resource. I had decided it would be a good idea to have a resource at home for repairs. I went down to the local hardware store and bought a book for beginners on home repair (I liked the pictures!) Since then, I had opened it maybe twice and found it's 'simple' explanations not simple and just continued to feed into my inadequacy. I tossed that book out after one year.

Get the RIGHT Reference Resource. The best resource for me for home repairs came from my teenage daughter who enjoys watching internet video's on how to make jewelry. I thought if there are How-To's about that, I bet there are How-To's on home repairs. And there are hundreds.

Simply launch Google and type in something like 'Sink stopper won't pop up' or 'How to Caulk a Shower'... lots of online video's will appear. I always take a look at a few and then ask myself... Can I do that?

For most items, the answer is YES!

My personal experience is that it does take longer than it does in the video. Patience is key as you are learning a new skill set.

Once the job is finished, you will feel on top of the word because you've taken one more step of freedom and you saved yourself some Cash!

Debbi Dickinson coaches divorced women to move past their divorce and create a new life for themselves mixing spiritual strategy with time tested proven tools. Debbi invites you to take advantage a Free 5-Day Video Guide that outlines some of these tools. http://www.steppingintojoy.com

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