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How to Move On After a Breakup

November 18, 2010 | Comments: 0 | Views: 170

Breakups can be difficult. But sometimes you realize it is all for the best and it is time to move on. How can you let go of the past and focus on the future?

1. Find what makes your heart sing.

What matters most to you in life? What is your true purpose? If somebody asked you these questions, would you be able to answer them?

Knowing your inner passion will give you a true sense of who you are and what you want out of life. It will give you direction and help you make informed decisions. It will be your compass, your guidebook and your rudder. Without a purpose, you will be like a ship with no way to steer, floating endlessly in no particular direction, wherever the tide decides to take it, it eventually ending up on the sandy shore or against a rocky cliff.

When you follow your inner passion, you are living with integrity and in harmony with yourself. You are in tune with your mind, body and spirit. Take some time to focus on what is really important to you. Feel your passions. Keep a journal of what you discover.

2. Follow your vibes.

Maybe you have heard the expression, "you are what you think about." This is because you tend to take those actions that you focus on and think about most frequently. When you go through a divorce or breakup, your emotions are like a roller coaster. You need to take some time to reconnect with who you are. Recognize what your emotions are telling you.

Are your feelings low-energy or high-energy? Low energy might be stressed, resentment and negativity. And maybe a feeling of lack, whether of time or money). High-energy is happiness, joy and positivity, love and compassion. So how can you increase your level of high-energy and decrease the low energy?

First of all, acknowledge the feelings you're having. Be kind and gentle with yourself. You want to make a shift but you can't do it all at once, so start with baby steps. Start at the beginning and be thankful for what is working for you right now in your life. Whenever you feel down, take a moment to think of something you cherish, such as a loved one.

Now you want to amp up the wattage of this high energy feeling. Think of a time of joy in your life, something you are passionate about. Now, keep adding these positive thoughts to your high energy feeling until you start to feel great!

3. Listen to your feelings.

After a breakup you may be filled with doubts. You may wonder what is right, or even how you should feel. Listen to what your heart tells you is right. If it tells you to hold back, listen and obey. This is another way of saying that your inner instincts or intuition are warning you about something. Trust their wisdom. Conversely, if a decision feels good or right, that may mean you're headed in the right direction.

4. Live in the present.

Take off your blinders -- those are the things horses wear to keep them from seeing to the sides. Look around you. Take it all in. Focus closely on everything around you. Use all your senses. Look at all the things you had to be grateful for in life. If you are around your children, look at them and cherish their smiles give them a hug and realize how lucky you are. By focusing on your blessings, you will start to feel a peace sweep over you and your stress will subside.

Be present in the moment. Appreciate the beauty around you.

Breakups are not always fun or easy but you can make it through this time by realizing that you will, in fact, make it. Trust yourself and listen to your passions. Your true purpose in life is waiting to be rediscovered now is the time to start living your life with greater ease and to discover the feeling of inner peace. You are now truly free!

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