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The Power of Humility

February 09, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 191

"There is no limit to what a man can do so long as he does not care a straw who gets the credit for it." - Charles Edward Montague

Humility is a quality I admire in other people. It's a curious quirk of humanity that we think being humble means pretending that we are not. For true humility is grounded in a deep sense of our own self worth, a self worth based not on someone else's valuation of our qualities or skills, but based upon our felt sense knowledge of our Essence.

Like discipline, humility may not seem as readily accessible to some of us as it is to others. But humility may be found, cultivated and encouraged in all of us. One of the simplest ways to start is to notice when you feel the tug to take credit for something. We all like to be praised for our work but sometimes that praise doesn't come or, if it comes, can feel disappointing in some way. Noticing those times, and our reactions to them, can be the first step in realizing that it doesn't matter if the praise comes or not.

Oftentimes in relationships we can get caught up in the mundane aspects of our shared lives and we forget that each human is a universe expressed in and of themselves. We want credit for who did the dishes and who took out the trash and on and on. We want attention. We forget that we are more than our deeds and more than our opinions.

But what happens when we let go of our need to prove our own worth? What can we accomplish for and with each other if it does not matter what feedback comes next, or who gets the credit? To be humble requires deep and attentive listening. We must be curious and be present, without preconceived ideas, without the need to rebut, without the compulsion to defend. To be humble necessitates the willingness to be wrong. And to be all of these things, to be truly humble one must recognize the depth and worth of one's own soul and spirit. One must be able to see connections and similarities rather than differences and dissociation.

Being humble allows us to be present for each other in ways that allow the other to be seen truly and deeply and it allows us the space and freedom to be who we are, without show or pretence and without the need to blame or feel blamed. It's liberating. We can be open authentically, and we can allow whatever comes to flow through and with us rather than holding on as if trying to convince another that yes, we really are worth something. We already know.

Melanie McGhee, L.C.S.W offers spiritually integrated services that make your heart SING through her site Peacefruit! For more than 25 years she's been helping people cultivate sustainable peace of mind, greater confidence and better relationships. Her clients learn leading edge skills to help clear self-limiting beliefs, emotions and habits so they can leap into their FULL potential.

Find the Inner Peace you have been searching for through Melanie's award-winning book An Illumined Life ~ A Personal Yearly Retreat & Reflection Guide.

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