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I'm Angry That He Won't Marry Me And This Is Hurting Our Relationship: Tips That Might Help

April 25, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 443

I sometimes hear from women who, after a set amount of time, begin to feel a little annoyance, frustration, anger, or resentment that they are not getting engaged or married. And, as time goes by these negative feelings build so that it begins to hurt the relationship. The great irony of all of this is that this whole process can actually make a marriage or engagement less likely so that it is a vicious cycle.

I heard from a woman who said: "I've been with my boyfriend for five years. I hate calling him that, my boyfriend. We're in our late twenties and that's too old to be calling someone your boyfriend. At this point, we have lived together for two and a half years. He knows that I want to get married, but he's dragging his feet. We own our apartment together, but other than this, there's nothing legally binding us together. I worry that if something happened to either of us, the other wouldn't have any legal standing to make decisions. I'm angry that he has put me in this position. I feel like he thinks that I'm good enough to live with but not good enough to marry. And I find myself short tempered and sarcastic with him because of my anger. At this rate, I feel like this whole process is going to hurt our relationship. I can't seem to control my feelings. And I feel that I have a right to be angry. What can I do?" I will try to address these concerns in the following article.

Understand That If Left Unchecked, This Cycle Really Can Harm Or Even Destroy Your Relationship: Many couples get caught in this cycle and they just sort of become so used to it that they start to envision that it is always going to be this way. They figure that no one is going to blink first so that they will sort of always be at a stand still, waiting to see who is going to make the first move. That's why they often don't even see the end of their relationship coming. This cycle has ended many relationships precisely because people begin to believe that nothing is ever going to change. And eventually, one or both of the parties decides that they just don't want to live this way anymore.

Consider Agreeing To Shelf The Issue And Then To Come Back To It At An Agreed Upon Time: Here's what you have to understand. It's possible that eventually, this issue will become a central problem in your relationship. And, when this happens, the whole dynamics of your relationship changes and this change is not for the better. It seems as if everything always come back to this one thing and you can't seem to regain your footing or to move forward.

It's my experience and observation that it is better for you to put this issue on the shelf, for just a little while, if you find that it is deteriorating your relationship. Sometimes, when I explain this to folks, they think that I am telling them to give up or to just accept that he doesn't want to marry you. This isn't what I am implying at all. I am only saying that if you agree to shelf it and then to reevaluate, you gain a couple of things. First, you limit the damage to your relationship. In order for him to commit to you, he needs to have the peace of mind that the relationship is worthy of that commitment. The chances of this happening are less if you just can't move past your differences of opinion on this topic.

Second, if you can get him to agree to revisit this topic later, then he's committed to thinking very seriously about committing at a later point in time. As far as I'm concerned, that is a huge gain and big bonus. Because as of right now, you don't have that. And when you shelf the issue, you place your focus back on your relationship. The tension wanes and things can be good between you again. This way, when you two do discuss this again at that set time, your relationship will hopefully have recovered to the point where he is comfortable committing. If he is not, then it may be time to dig a little deeper to determine why he isn't comfortable committing.

But for now, this can be a great compromise because you are both eventually getting what you want and you are reclaiming your relationship, so that this issue doesn't damage it beyond the point of no repair or continue to tear you apart. Once you shelf the issue, you'll need to understand how to set up your relationship so that he actually wants to willingly commit. If you want tips and advice on how to make him commit quite willingly, check out my free blog at http://make-him-commit-with-a-ring.com/. There's a link to a free video that explains this quite well.

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