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How to Solve Disputes With the Helicopter Talk Technique

January 30, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 165

From time to time we all have problems, difficulties and disagreements with the people we come into contact with. Some times these minor issues can get out of hand and often this happens very quickly and we wonder what happened. A small disagreement can quickly lead to a serious argument.

What we need more than anything at times likes these is perspective. We need the ability to see the problem from another point of view. When we can do that we'll see options and creative ways to turn around the conversation and restore harmony. Now, this can seem almost impossible in the heat of the moment but it is possible and it is in fact much easier than you think.

Do you ever find that when a friend asks for your opinion on a problem it is a lot easier for you to see a solution than it is for your friend?

And do you also find that sometimes you feel completely stuck when it comes to your own problems?

The same applies to disputes, relationship issues and disagreements.

When you are part of the problem it can be very difficult to see a solution. What you need at times like this is a helicopter!

Helicopter Talk Technique:

1. Imagine you are in a helicopter flying high above the town you live in. Now travel to where you last had a dispute with a family member, friend or work mate.

2. From the safety and distance of the helicopter above rerun the last conversation when the trouble flared up. Watch the scene unfold and pay attention to how you communicated rather than who was in the right.

3. Ask yourself:

how could you have handled the situation better?what could you have done differently?what is the solution to the problem?

Your goal is to be emotionally detached yet concerned with finding the best solution in the same way you help a friend with a problem.

4. Imagine a trusted friend is in the helicopter observing:

what advice would your friend give you?what does your friend notice that you missed?

Your own private helicopter can be used to identify patterns of communication you have that land you in hot water as well as new ways of dealing with problems. The power of perspective can transform all aspects of your communication if you'll just pay attention and observe your own patterns.

Have fun in the sky!

About The Author

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.freenowtoday.com/

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