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I'm Taking Back My Life, Four Hours At a Time! Thanks Tim Ferriss

May 15, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 177

You would have thought that I would have learned after the first failed attempt at marriage and a humorous string of break-ups and let-downs. But no. This girl has always been the sort who learned things the hard way. To help you see how Tim Ferriss and his book, 'Four Hour Work Week' changed my life, you should first understand what my life looked like before the book. There's nearly twenty years of mis-guided ambition, but I'll make it short.

At twenty I placed a child for adoption because my boyfriend (who would become my first/practice husband) and I didn't have time to be parents. We were too busy pursuing what we thought was success. We were living to work which meant 60+ hour work weeks, endless phone calls, and constant contact with our business. I don't remember a single vacation that wasn't either work related, or interrupted by work. That marriage ended badly and at 25, I found myself without a child, husband, home, etc...but I found comfort in my career which was going well.

I put even more hours in at work to mask the pain I was feeling. I felt like less of a failure if the company was making money and I was being promoted. There were a few relationships along the way, and then at 30, I had a daughter and at 31, a son. Notice there is no mention of their father(s)? That's because I'm stubborn, strong-willed, pig-headed, and had absolutely no time for a relationship with Mr. I kept picking Mr. Wrong and then driving him away too.

And still, through it guessed career was flourishing. I was emotionally and financially bankrupt but still things looked shiny and polished for me professionally. I continued to advance, the company was doing well, and I was paying half my salary to someone to raise my children. This was still acceptable to me though. On the weekends I would give the children gifts and spend time with them to make up for the long hours, phone calls in the middle of dinner, and the missed recitals and school events. Our family pictures made us look like the American dream. Sometimes I even felt like pinching myself, because I felt I had beaten the odds.

There wasn't time for family vacations, long conversations, and most bedtime stories included my iPad so the children could amuse themselves. I still wasn't catching on that I had absolutely no quality of life, much less any quantity. I ate on the way to work and the way home and slept at home. There were times I felt I had bought a house for someone else, and I wondered if our furniture was even comfortable. Heaven knows, I didn't have time to sit on it. It wasn't until I was 34 years old that I began to see that the speed we were travelling was dangerous. I wondered to myself how much longer we could go on and I figured I would have a nervous breakdown or a heart attack sooner rather than later, but that was the price I thought I would have to pay for success.

And then, the sun broke through the clouds. Or, if you prefer (as my father would say), the two-by-four hit me on the head! I was fired from my job. Now, everything that defined me was gone. I now had time to spend with my family, but I had no idea what that life looked like and I was overwhelmed, confused, and devastated. After the depression subsided, I was told to read the 'Four Hour Work Week' by Tim Ferriss. I have now started my own company and I'm controlling the W's of my life: What I do with my time, Where I do things, When I do things, and with Whom I spend my time. I have a quality and quantity of life that I could never have imaged in my previous life. For example, I went to the park yesterday and spent three hours playing in the sunshine in the middle of the day. I was enjoying my children and I wasn't checking emails or talking to clients. I was living!

You too can take control of your life, and hopefully you can do so without being fired from your job, getting divorced, or hitting rock bottom. I just seem to learn more slowly than most, and I hope it doesn't take you quite as long as it took me. Pick up a copy of Ferriss's book and stop waiting until retirement to enjoy your life. Your life is here and it's now, and it's not waiting for you so you need to stop waiting for it!

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