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October 03, 2011 | Comments: 0 | Views: 194

I bet you didn't realize how valuable a deck of playing cards or my personal old school favorite, UNO, could be. Many kids struggle with various social skills including sportsmanship, joining in with peers, learning new games quickly, and being a savvy game player. The good news is, you can help your kids work on all of these skills with a single deck of cards.

Think back to all of the card games you used to play when you were younger with your friends, your parents, or your siblings. Think about how much fun it was and how much time you used to spend playing. Far away from video games, too, I'm sure. Try to remember a few games that you knew. Go Fish (for the younger kids), Crazy Eights, Slap Jack, BS, Spit, and UNO (which requires a different deck but well worth the $6 investment). If you can't remember the rules to these games, look them up. Some of the games are less sophisticated than others, so choose the ones that will be suit your kids.

Get yourself squared away on the directions, find the cards, remember how to shuffle, and get your kids. Sit them down, blow their minds with your awesome shuffling skills (they love the bridge) and tell them you're going to teach them a card game. They'll love it. Give the directions with as few words as possible, ask them if they get it, tell them you'll help them as they learn and get started.

Deal out the cards. Parents, here is the first important step. Teach your children how to fan out and hold their cards properly. Kids that can't or don't hold their cards properly can't select cards to play quickly, end up dropping cards, and most importantly, they appear vulnerable to other kids they may be playing with. If other kids can easily look at their cards, they'll be taken advantage of, and we don't want that. Teach them how to fan their cards, and hold their cards properly.

Next, play the game. Give them tips on how to play or what cards to play, but don't let them win. You're not doing them any favors. Remind kids who have trouble with losing that you're playing for fun, that you're having fun even if you're not winning, and ask them throughout the game if they're having a good time (before the winning or losing starts). If it starts to get too difficult for them to maintain composure, tell them you'd love to play the game later on when they're ready to play calmly and fairly. Give high fives, say "good game", congratulate the winner, and talk about playing again another time.

Help your kids learn the games, but then, help them become good at the games. Teach them the skills required to make good card choices like quick thinking, paying attention, watching other people's moves, and any other skills involved in being a good card player. This may sound silly, but it will build their confidence and make them feel more comfortable. Plus, when other kids see that they're good, they'll want to play with them. They'll start asking them to play more. Most kids like a good opponent.

Once you have taught your child a card game or a few card games, they will now feel more comfortable joining in with other kids who are playing card games or will be more likely to accept when someone asks them to play. Kids will forever be playing card games together. A deck of cards and UNO cards are a staple in classrooms. They're used for indoor recess and free time. For nervous or shy kids, being comfortable, familiar, and confident with their game playing skills will likely motivate them to play. They may even be brave enough to teach other kids some of the awesome games you've taught them.

Playing anything with your kids and actually having a good time with them increases their self-esteem, gives you fun family memories, and provides your children with countless learning opportunities to grow. Enjoy your play time with your kids and enjoy playing cards with them. It's something you can do with them forever. They may not always want you to read books to them, but they may always be down for a game of cards.

Signs your child may need professional help with social skills

Excessive trouble with sportsmanship and losing (crying, tantrums, refusing to participate)Has trouble making or keeping friendsHas trouble joining in or connecting with peersStruggles with conversation skills

Talk to your children's teachers to find out more information about your child's social interactions if you suspect that he or she may need some help.

Alison Ratner, LCSW


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