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A Broad Look At Anger Management And Techniques

June 02, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 128

While anger is a normal human emotion that deserves release every now and then, it is important to keep anger under control to prevent untoward consequences. Many people can handle anger reasonably, but some just can't.

To the people who find their anger always exploding, to the point of hurting others' feelings or even to the point of physical injury, anger management is vital. It is indeed possible to manage anger, as many of us have already done, so that we can still express anger in a form that won't dominate our lives or harm our relationships with others.

Anger, in itself, is not a bad form of emotion. It is normal to react angrily under some circumstances. If you've been treated improperly or you felt that others have been unfair to you, you can become rightfully angry. Management of anger deals with the behaviors that we exhibit when we're angry.

For instance, it is acceptable to raise our voices if someone has wronged us. However, if it becomes repetitive to the extent that others become afraid of us or view us as unapproachable, then no matter how legitimate our grievances are, we have lost.

Again, hitting objects sometimes results from outbursts of anger, but if it becomes habitual or if we resort to hitting other people, then we have to cool it down and manage it.

There are some common misconceptions regarding anger management, and let us deal with them one by one.

• While anger shouldn't be suppressed, letting anger out in an aggressive manner isn't a healthy alternative, especially if actually directed towards people.

• Next, there are some people who use anger as a means of gaining respect. That does not hold up, because anger is very unlikely to gain respect; it is more likely to foster fear and distrust.

• Regarding management, there are people who think that anger can't be managed. Anger can indeed be managed; we can always choose the way in which we express anger.

• Finally, anger is something that some of us think should be suppressed. That is unrealistic. Suppression of anger is impossible; it will emerge when we are pushed hard. The possibility of getting angry often leads us to the issue of expressing it properly.

Before we explore how to manage anger properly, we should examine the consequences of anger that isn't controlled or managed well. Everything is ruin.

• We ruin our relationships with significant others, whom we may be hurting physically or emotionally because of improperly controlled anger.

• We ruin our relationships with friends and colleagues, because we become intimidating and scary with our anger; we don't come across as someone who is nice to work with.

• Lastly, improperly expressed anger ruins us - physically and mentally. We become stressed often, thus increasing the risk for heart disease, diabetes, stroke, and a host of other illnesses. We also become unable to think well, concentrate properly, and resolve problems.

Now that we know the importance of keeping anger under intelligent control, it is now our job to follow some anger management techniques. Here are some that we can follow:

• Make sure to know your behavioral signs of anger. When do you know that you are becoming angry already? These signs will remind you that you are getting angry already, and at that moment you'll stop, think, and find ways to express it constructively.

• Find ways to release anger. Get out of the situation that is making you angry. Then you can breathe deeply, exercise, read a book, or listen to relaxing music. That way you can think about the situation in a more focused manner.

• Find out what makes you angry. Do you find it difficult to concede on issues or to accept divergent viewpoints? Do you fear something or are you guilty of something and you're just using anger to cover it up? Analyze your feelings well so that you don't have to resort to getting angry all the time.

When we find out that anger is messing with us and with our smooth relations with others, then we should consider following sound advice about anger management.

Article written by Norman Holden editor and owner of a website about Anger Management Techniques. Visit his website on a regular basis for up-to-date news and help.

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