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The Pain of Marital Infidelity

February 27, 2012 | Comments: 0 | Views: 171

The hurt that someone felt when he/she has been cheated on by his/her spouse cannot be compared to anything. They may feel rejected or less of a person because of the betrayal or the infidelity. You may not think clearly when you learned about it the first time. Or your mind may go blank because you don't know what to think, as the reality has not sink in yet. And dealing with this kind of pain is very hard on someone who has trusted and loved so much. After everything has sunk in, then the reality hits and then the pain will follow through. You'll feel confused, betrayed, hurt, and angered with the fact that the marriage that you once thought to be perfect and the partner that you trust and love had done something that ruined your marriage. There will be a lot of why's and how's that you want to have an answer to.

You may find it right to talk to your spouse and get answers to your questions. To settle the issues that may have triggered him/her to cheat on you. But, is it right or is it just for anyone to cheat on their spouses just because he/she may have some short comings? Isn't it one of the vows you both made to each other is "To love, to cherish for the rests of your lives, till death do you part"? Then why would anyone break this vow and choose the path where everything you build together will break into pieces. If you try to find the answers on your own, you may find it hard to overcome the pain without looking back and this could lead to more pain and resentment towards your spouse.

In some cases, the spouse who cheated, may even try to deny it and would even try to turn the responsibility around. In cases like this, you may find it even harder to deal with it. You may even consider talking to a family member or a friend to ask for some advice or just someone to open your heart out to. Talking to somebody will help you ease the pain a bit, but it is more helpful if you seek the assistance of a professional relationship coach. A professional relationship coach who specializes in dealing with cases of infidelity will be an appropriate person to talk to. This is because they know how to help and guide you, every step of the way, until you reach the point where you are healed. To the point where you know that you are at peace with yourself and at peace with the spouse who had caused you all this pain. A life, once again, filled with love, respect and harmony.

I am a trained Professional Life and Relationship Coach, Master, Mentor and Marketing Coach, and an Instructor at the World Coach Institute. I continue to train to strengthen myself and to bring more skills and tools to help my clients at I have lived in Belize, Jamaica, Cayman Islands, California, Minnesota and Kuwait, and have travelled extensively. My experiences along the way brought me knowledge of cultural differences; with it, an understanding of the connectedness we all share with the Divine.

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